Distorted Reality Of Beauty

Firstly we want to say thank you for clicking on this to read. We haven’t been blogging for long. We understand the blogging community is ‘White noise.’ One thing we know is the ‘perfect’ airbrushed photographs across social media isn’t healthy. We don’t ‘live for the ‘gram.’  We are doing this because it’s fun and we love beauty products. Ironically companies don’t tend to want to collaborate with people unless you have over five  thousand followers. How is anyone supposed to notice anyone else? Trust me -if Maya Angelou started a blog up that had just five people - it would be the most incredible and valuable blog ever made. We all have a voice. We can speak a thousand words, buy followers and shout from the rooftops and it wouldn’t make a difference. Life isn’t all candyfloss and glitter. Although, trust us when we say it would be fabulous if it was. We love unique people. People with personality and their own flair. We love Chanel but live in a council house! The weird social ladder that is supposed to encase us and hold us back- it can be broken. Nobody is perfect looking. (Although Cara Delevingne, Gigi Hadid & Lisa snowdon are pretty much perfection.) We do know however  even these women will have days they feel dreadful about themselves. That’s okay! We have had body issues and pick out bits of us we wish we could change. Why aren’t we living in the moment? The saying “Life is Short” is true. Loving ourselves isn’t shameful. There’s a difference between understanding ourselves and being confident compared to being arrogant and demanding attention. It took us a while to understand that. We have both cried looking in the mirror or catching a glimpse of ourselves walking passed a window and wishing we were home in pjs. Comfort zones and zen zones are vital for us all to get through the day. A place to retreat and put on pjs and hair swept back in a plait. How many of you feel confident, once your hair and make up is pretty then go out and feel completely out of place? Wishing you looked like others around you? 

      One thing we want to say is ALL of us feel this way at some point. We believe if someone looks good tell them and spread the positivity. Release those endorphins like glitter onto other people. We aren’t needing to conform to be “accepted.” Be yourself. 

  

Collette:  I grew up thinking that if anyone gave positive  compliments, it was wrong. Now I’m in my 40’s I could have done with that confidence. How many of us shake our head no or don’t respond if someone says something nice? I do it all the time. It’s okay to say “Thank you. That’s kind.” This negative way of living has kept me hating myself. I don’t have full length mirrors in my bedroom for a reason. I’m my own worst troll. I trolled myself before trolling was even a thing. I hide away. I get anxiety being out and it’s worse in busy places. My height at 5ft9 doesn’t help me in wanting to hide away. I vowed growing up and into adulthood that if I ever have children they will know it’s okay to be happy. We all have bad days but it’s important we get over it. Especially as everyone feels the same. We can have expensive taste but live in a council house. Why stay into the little labels people give us, just because it’s easier for them to cope? I’ve never been one to conform due to feeling so socially awkward. A billion plus words in the social networks but how many resonate with us? Surely using our voices for positivity will make a difference in someone’s day. Truth of the matter is we aren’t flawless. We don’t look like dolls. We have spots, pores, messy hair. We can’t apply make up like it’s been done by an app. Truth is we are all unique. Beauty is what we make it. I have friends of various backgrounds, colour, sexual orientation and nationality. Beauty is inclusive in all those things.

It is that simple. Let’s just talk about this. I see beautiful people every day. I don’t feel jealousy - I think they look nice and wonder how they managed to put mascara on without looking like they sneezed halfway through. (This happens to me more times than not!) We aren’t perfect. Just ourselves.

Julia: I feel nowadays people aspire to be like a fake post or a fake Instagram account. They go on Instagram and see an airbrushed, altered image they want to be like without realising it is fake. Nowadays society is if you don’t have perfect eyebrows or lashes then you don’t fit in to the standard. Why aren’t we breaking that barrier??! 

We talk about it being 2019 and so much has changed for the better all the time but has it really? Why is it in the future we aspire to be the exact same as everyone else? A clone. A Barbie doll. If it’s like this now I cannot imagine how bad it’s going to be when I’m even older with kids and how their image will be seen or how they’ll be made to feel. 

We need to stop this social “acceptance” and understand that just because people want to look different or be different to express who they are, it doesn’t actually make them different. They’re still the same as you and I, so treat them like they are. We all still feel and words can go further than you think and can stick with someone for a long time.

                                   Let’s change it up.
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